tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-745483955719090967.post7306195705240350011..comments2008-06-17T08:24:22.776-05:00Bright Horizonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14992390354369769334noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-745483955719090967.post-66192048208609504352008-06-16T14:00:00.000-05:002008-06-16T14:00:00.000-05:00I sympathize and don't have any great answers. Lucky for us, my mom lives about 150 miles away -- too long for the expectation that we'll visit. Plus, her bday is right near mother's day, so this year we visited for that event instead. My mother-in-law, on the other hand, is in a relatively nearby nursing home. It seems mean and selfish not to want to visit, and on the other hand, it's not really my idea of a fun and relaxing day for me. This year, we didn't make any formal plan to visit, but had time in the afternoon and made an impropmtu drop-by. With the great weather and some other family as surprise guests as well, it turned out to be the best visit we've ever had. I think the lack of pressure of HAVING to visit, made it all the more relaxing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-745483955719090967.post-56246818006524710882008-05-05T13:49:00.000-05:002008-05-05T13:49:00.000-05:00It is time for Moms to take back Mother's Day! This will be my second year as a new mom. My first Mother's Day was awful! My baby was only 4 months old and I had to take her (without my husband) to a loud restaurant, try to hold her, feed her, keep her calm with all the noise around and have dinner with my family. I couldn't believe how they didn't even consider the fact that I had a newborn. I was very excited to be a new mom and celebrate my first Mother's Day and then it was ruined by having to hold my daughter, try to eat and keep everyone from messing with her because she would scream bloody murder and then be in a bad mood the rest of the day. So this year, I am doing what I want. I am going to church with my mom in the morning because it is still her day too but I am skipping the dinner with family to go to the zoo with my little girl and husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-745483955719090967.post-54923007907751893152008-05-02T12:57:00.000-05:002008-05-02T12:57:00.000-05:00OMG-- I literally thought this word for word on the train yesterday as I started to begrudgingly plan the day I now refer to as "Grandma DAy"jsciuscohttp://openid.aol.com/jsciusconoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-745483955719090967.post-37279123107962241372008-05-01T13:49:00.000-05:002008-05-01T13:49:00.000-05:00I suppose it is a glass half full/half empty conundrum. We live 500 miles away from our moms/grandmoms, so spending Mother's Day with them isn't a feasible option. I would enjoy the time that you and your extended family can spend together--and maybe choose another Sunday to have a stay-at-home-and-eat-pizza-for-dinner day. I bet, in time, you'll be glad you made time for both!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-745483955719090967.post-45707028575648584572008-05-01T09:19:00.000-05:002008-05-01T09:19:00.000-05:00I have been through this exact scenario! We have been on an every other year pattern so far (my oldest is only 4). One year, I'll do the traveling and the next is my year to stay home with my boys - planting flowers in the yard!<BR/><BR/>I have another friend who celebrates with the grandmothers the weekend before Mother's Day, perhaps that would work for you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com